Does he love Daddy?

[ClarkA]

:( Background: My 2 month old son was born on Halloween 2003. Mom has been at home with him since. I stayed home for the first three weeks, but unfortunately, had to return to work. I work 8-5 with a one hour lunch break and am able to come home at lunch. When I do, I spend as much of the break with my son as possible. When I get home at 5:00, my son is generally happy to see me. I do the cooking and a lot of the other work too, so I try to keep "caught up" and spend time with Aidan. Now, it seems like recently, after dinner Aidan gets a little fussy, like most babies, I hope, with one exception. When I pick him up or attempt to bottle feed him, he will sometimes be ok, but usually scream bloody murder! Then mom comes in and picks him up and he stops. Occasionally he will scontinue to cry, but generally will settle when she gets him. (BTW, he is still breast feeding for all but like one feeding. We are trying to get him ready to go stay with a sitter or Grandma during the day as my wife has to go back to work soon!)

HELP!

Is it me or a phase or what?!! If it is a phase or collic or something, what can I do!? It is really starting to wear on my wife and me for that matter. It seems like the instant I can spend time with im, its "No Way Jose! I want mommy!" :(


Clark A

[auzziekat]

Hi Clark A,
First of all of course your little boy loves you!!! I just want to say what a fantastic father you are to him to come home on your lunch break to see him and your wife!!! That is amazing!! :D
Now down to business, it seems that your son is going through a Mommy stage, don't worry there will be plenty of Daddy stages to come. I know that it is hard for you right know but you have to think of your son and what he wants, because if he wants Mommy that is who he is going to get!! All you have to do is wait out this hard time, now I'm not saying that you should stop trying to feed your son or stop interacting with him, far from it, just keep doing what you are doing and one day his fussiness will stop!!
Is he taking the bottle ok?? Or do you think he is having some issues with the bottle as well. Because if that is the case that is another story.
I hope this will help you and knowing that it is only a stage will make you feel better. :)

[ClarkA]

Hi there!

Thanks for the reply. He seems to take the bottle ok. Actually it has been a 50-50 split of the four times we have tried this so far. Still, it is not only when we or I try to bottle feed. I can take him into his room and change him, and he is happy as a lark on his changing table, but when I pick him up, he fires up again! It's just frustrating, for all of us I'm sure!

I think the worst part of the whole thing is that mommy has been home for 10 of her 12 weeks of maternity leave and will be going back to work soon, so that will be a new challenge for all of us, once we have to experience the daily sitter routine! :blink:
Any thoughts on that one?

Either way, I will keep you posted.....

Clark A.

[auzziekat]

Hi Clark A,
Well I am glad that your son is taking the bottle ok!!!
As for the sitter, make sure you check out her references and dmv, also make sure both you and your wife have a good vibe from this woman!!
As I said earlier it is going to be hard for you, just remember that your son loves you and when you are holding him, make sure that you are relaxed because he feels everything that you feel, so be confident, you can't harm him ok!!
Pleas keep me posted!!!